6th Relational Coaching Conference

6th Relational Coaching Conference

“Love Over Fear”

What to expect

A day organised around the quest to bring more love to work, organisations and the political world of today. An opportunity to stand still and deeply understand the power of the love that we use in our work.

We can see many forms that our love might take - respect, empathic understanding, dignity, humanity, warmth, unconditional positive regard, containment, libido, eros, agape - so many nuances of feeling.

Meanwhile, organisations are experienced as fractious, politics are ugly and the pressures on leaders are immense. So, what can coaches do to help out and not succumb to these forces? Are we not just small, external, insignificant service providers; often self-employed outsiders with no stronger weapons than our notebooks and pens, and on a good day our reflective minds?

We have thought long and hard about what it is coaches are trying to offer and what it is that we are up against. We wonder if what we offer is “love”, at least in our best work, where we see and use the point of view of the boss, the opponent, the client’s ‘better half’, whilst also being entirely on the side of the client, and ‘creatively indifferent’ to the outcome of the work. And we think what we are up against is “fear”: fear that we might be wrong, outnumbered, past our sell-by dates, insignificant, or endangered. This kind of fear guides us not to listen to the other 50% on the referendum ballot or closes us down to learning just-in-time and just-what-we-need to make our time in office a success.

In this conference we are inviting you to take a fresh look at love and fear. Can we have empathy for ourselves in our not-knowing, self-doubting, occasionally fearful state of minds – even our hatred, shame, envy and disgust – in order to allow for love and care?

Event details

Date: Thursday 25th June 2020

Venue: Ashridge House, Berkhamsted, Hertfordshire, HP4 1NS

Set in 190 acres of beautiful landscaped gardens and located just 30 minutes north of London.

Ticket pricing: £200 entry fee - All refreshments and lunch included

Conference team

Erik de Haan, Charlotte Sills, David Birch, Jennifer Potten

Agenda

08:30-09:30 | Welcome Teas & Coffees

09:30-09:40 | Introduction – David Birch

09:40-10:45 | Keynote Speaker - Plenary

10:45-11:30 | Panel Session AM – Love and Hate in Organisations – with the speaker and workshop holders

11:30-11:45 | Tea & Coffee Break

11:45-13:00 | Parallel Workshops I

13:00-14:00 | Lunch

14:00-14:30 | Robin Shohet – “Love over Fear” Plenary Keynote

14:30-15:30 | Parallel Workshops II – What does it mean for us as relational coaches?

15:30-15:45 | Tea & Coffee Break

15.45-16:30 | Panel Session PM – “Implications for practice and research”

16:30-17:00 | Close – Charlotte Sills wrapping up the day

17:00 | Drinks & informal conversations

Meet your team

Marjan Timmer
Ben Fuchs
Naomi Shragai
Naomi Shragai
Helen Clayton
Marina Cantacuzino
David Owen
Robin Shohet

Marjan Timmer

Marjan Timmer is an experienced senior organisation consultant in organisational and group learning. She runs a relational practice in the Netherlands as an executive (team) coach and a supervisor in organisational change. Marjan loves to work with the unique challenges each client brings, and feels privileged to engage with both them and their questions. Her experiences have taught her that there is richness in saying a candid yes to love, as well as a candid yes to the elements of life we are not so fond of, such as fear or in bolder terms, even hate.

Ben Fuchs

Ben Fuchs has been working in personal and professional development for 30 years. Drawing upon his background in psychotherapy, group psychology and conflict resolution, he works as consultant in leadership and organisational development. He joined Ashridge as associate faculty in 2010 and also works with The King’s Fund, NHS Leadership Academy and the Centre for Supervision and Team Development. His work focuses on how organisations and leaders create the climate and culture where people speak honestly and listen openly. He has published in Harvard Business Review and European Business Review.

Naomi Shragai

Naomi Shragai is a psychotherapist, business consultant and executive coach. She is a regular contributor to the Financial Times writing about psychodynamic themes in business.

Jill Hunt

Jill Hunt MSc, Teaching and Supervising Transactional Analyst, UKCP Registered Psychotherapist, BACP Accredited supervisor. Although Jill has recently retired from clinical practice, she worked for many years in West Sussex and London as a psychotherapist, counsellor and clinical supervisor. Jill has an extensive experience as a supervisor and a tutor and has worked at both Metanoia Institute and Cascade Associates.

Helen Clayton

A consultant of 25 years’ experience, Helena designs and runs innovative leadership development for public and private sector organisations and is a coach, thinking partner and critical friend for leaders at all levels. She is part of the Faculty for Roffey Park’s MSc in People and Organisations and runs several OD education programmes. Helena is currently researching, writing and speaking about the role love could or should play in organisations and beyond.

Marina Cantacuzino

Marina Cantacuzino is a journalist and author who in 2004 founded The Forgiveness Project, a charity that works with real stories to explore how concepts of compassion, empathy and forgiveness can be used to break cycles of violence, restore broken relationships and mend broken hearts.

David Owen

For the last decade David has worked exclusively in the health sector where love and fear are particularly prevalent. The session will help coaches to contract around fear and love in their work and invite participants to explore the potential to deepen their relationship with clients while embracing their own part in challenging relationships including through countertransference and projective identification.

Robin Shohet

Robin Shohet has been supervising for over 40 years. He is co-author of Supervision in the Helping Professions and editor of Passionate Supervision and Supervision as Transformation. His latest book ‘In Love with Supervision - Creating Transformative Conversations’ which he wrote with Joan Shohet-Wilmot came out in January 2020. His core belief is that love is the basis of existence, but covered with fear in a way that is not recognised, especially in an achievement orientated culture. He is committed to helping people recognise and accept their fears as a way of achieving their potential.

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